Well, I think the definition of "a good marriage" depends on the individual couples. Each couple is different and the reasons their marriages last are as different from one couple from another as the couples themselves. There is no universal definitive "good marriage"' I say so because religion, race, upbringing, morals, tradition and atimes even age( yes age, an 18 year olds view on marriage is different from a 40year old lady) can affect our perspective on what a good marriage is and hopefully your spouse shares the same views.
But this is how I see it, a 'good' marriage is an easy relationship. There are no secrets, no lies, no expectations. you love each other unconditionally and put up with each others habits!
Both have to give 100% while meeting in the middle and sometimes you have to pick up a few extra %s now and then.
You work effortlessly to please each other and be thankful everyday for their love and give love back, daily.
A good marriage is what you make it, what is good for you, how it makes you feel.
Marriages becomes a burden when a couple marry for the wrong reasons or go into them without really knowing the other person. When it is right you will know. if you have ANY doubts it is not yet right.
Marriages go bad because one side is feeling left out, cheated on, carrying more than their 100% for too long and not appreciated. All we really need is love and support the rest will take care of itself.
A good marriage doesn't just happen,If you have your marriage management on "autopilot," that will not produce the results you surely want. It takes nurturing ,openness and commitment..Everything in one’s life is in direct proportion to the attention, effort and importance given to it.
But then again his is just my opinion, how do you define a good marriage?
A good marriage for me personally is when you are happy and excited at the end of a busy day to go back to your spouse. When your spouse is the star in your life, someone who makes you happy. Definitely there are ups and downs, but when there's respect, understanding and love, things will work better. I said love last because people always think that's the ultimate, but it's not always the case. Love without mutual respect and understanding does not last. We all have different understanding of love anyway.
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